A Year of Transformation and Reflection

Hey all, it's been a while since I last checked in on Quora. Here's a bit about where I've been and why I've been away.

Life Changes and Personal Growth

Since my last update, my life has seen some significant changes and challenges. Over the past year, I've had to step away from the negativity and endless stress that came along with my previous routine. Admittingly, that routine replaced my initial doomscrolling on social media with a more engaging Reddit. It wasn't quite the same, but it was something to keep me busy.

Work has been incredibly busy, leaving me less time for idle contemplation. Additionally, I've taken up Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu as a new hobby. Training 4-5 days a week for 2-3 hours each time has been both challenging and rewarding. I've even started competing and have seen significant improvements in my skills. It's been a great way to channel some of my energy and stress into something constructive.

Personal Relationships and Mental Health

On the interpersonal side, I’ve found myself in a stable and happy relationship with an actor. We’ve been together for about a year and a half and are working on a BPD-related project that excites me. While it’s too early to share too much, I hope to update you on it soon. This relationship has been a lifeline for me during a tough period and I’m immensely grateful for his support.

My mental health has been more stable than ever. However, I’ve noticed that I’ve become somewhat absent from my old friendships. I am actively working to find a balance, ensuring that I have the time and space to enjoy the things I love while also making room for others. Although I feel like I’m focusing more on self-development, it’s important to me to maintain connections.

Exploring My Identity

Another significant change is that I’ve started to explore my identity in a new way. I recently changed my name to "Abel," though I haven’t made this known to many of my close friends outside of this platform. This is a safe space for me to experiment and find myself. I understand that this might be a sensitive topic, but I want to be open and honest with you all.

Family Life and Health

On the family front, there has been some drama and health concerns that have greatly affected me. Lately, my immediate family has been healthy, but my husband's family has faced some health issues. This has been extremely stressful, and the situation isn’t entirely resolved yet. I have been trying to keep my focus on the positive aspects despite the challenges.

To add a bit of good news, we had a wonderful vacation where we spent time in Colorado, Florida, and Carolina. The kids also had a great summer job experience and attended lacrosse camps. It was a much-needed break from the daily grind. Work has been steady, and we’re in the early stages of a significant business venture that involves new partners with valuable experience.

Conclusion and Future Plans

While I miss being active on Quora and interacting with all of you, I am starting to find my rhythm in life. I appreciate the messages and concern from those who were worried. I want to reassure everyone that I am doing well and that the changes in my life have been a much-needed shift towards personal growth and stability.

I hope to be more active and share more updates with you all in the coming months, but for now, I want to limit my commitments and focus on re-establishing balance in my life.

Thank you all for your understanding and continued support. I look forward to chatting with you all soon!