Navigating Conversations with Harry Potter Non-Fans: Strategies and Insights

Have you ever found yourself in a conversation with someone who just can't get into the magic and wonder of the Harry Potter series? If so, you're not alone. Many of us have wondered how to bridge the gap and share the joy of our favorite fantasy world, especially when it seems like jumping into a fandom can be overwhelming.

Respect Their Choices

First and foremost, it's important to respect people's choices, especially when it comes to things like reading or watching franchises that have had an enormous and personal impact on us. Here’s a simple yet effective phrase: I won’t make you cosplay or force a relationship with you if this is a deal breaker, me being a fan of HP.

Encouraging Exploration

Encouraging others to explore Harry Potter in their own way can be a gentle and non-pressuring approach. You could suggest, “It’s never too late. I whisper. No one is too old or young to read the books. You can try to watch the movies in your free time too.” This shows that you care about their comfort and willingness to try new things.

Sharing Other Stories

If you find that this person truly has no interest in anything like Harry Potter, it's okay to share other stories that they may appreciate. I’d say, 'King Bruce and the Spider - Short Story' alongside Aesops fables and Hans Brinker and the silver skates. These classics can also spark a conversation about shared interests and values.

Understanding Their Standpoint

When dealing with someone who has never read or watched Harry Potter, it's important to understand their standpoint. You can gently remind them that there's nothing wrong with not having read or watched it, and that it doesn't define who they are. In fact, with the loving support of family and friends and appropriate professional intervention, people who have never read or watched Harry Potter can learn to lead happy, useful lives—or at least pallid semblances thereof.

Finding Common Ground

Common ground is key in any conversation. Suggesting other topics altogether can be a brilliant way to prevent potential awkwardness. For example, you might ask, “Hello. How are you? Do you support the designated hitter rule? What are your views about the Minnesota Vikings? Would you like to see some pictures of an improbably large cat?” These questions can open up a whole new set of topics and interests.

Handling the Occasional Outburst

While respecting someone’s non-fandom is generally the best approach, there may be times when a person reacts negatively. In such situations, it’s best to keep your composure. You might think, “freaking out Do you even have a life!”, but it's usually more effective to remain calm and understanding. A few potential responses:

You filthy Muggle! Avadakedavra!: In reality, you would probably say nothing and understand that they either do not relate to the concept or come from a different background. You fool! (in my head): This could also be replaced by a polite and understanding statement like, “I understand that this might seem like a different world for you.”

Building Bridges

Lastly, make sure to remind yourself that it's okay not to share the passion for every book, movie, or TV show. You can use this as an opportunity to discover new interests. For instance, you might say, “Yeah. I'm not interested in that crap either. And you’ve never seen Game of Thrones? What a coincidence. Neither have I. How about zombie movies?” This can lead to a broader discussion and mutual understanding.

Dealing with non-fans of Harry Potter can sometimes be challenging, but by being respectful, understanding, and open to other topics, you can make conversations more enjoyable for everyone involved.