Navigating Relationships: My Perspective on Dating Another Autistic Person

Living with autism can be a unique and sometimes challenging experience. As someone who has navigated these challenges, I would like to share my thoughts and experiences regarding dating another autistic person. This is a personal perspective, and everyone's journey is different.

Understanding the Autistic Community in Different Settings

For me, the environment can greatly influence how well I navigate social interactions. In places such as school or church, where certain rules and expectations are enforced, an unmasked autistic individual's behaviors can trigger significant anxiety. The stress can be overwhelming, leading to feelings of embarrassment and discomfort. I often find myself going out of my way to adhere to these social norms, and when others, even those with autism, fail to do so, it can be incredibly distressing.

For instance, during class, students with distinctive communication and social patterns can cause anxiety. Speaking without raising their hand, going off topic, and not understanding the rules can be a constant source of stress. While these individuals may have special interests that intrigue me, their lack of awareness of social norms and rules exacerbates my anxiety. It's as if their actions are serving as a stark reminder of my own struggles with these norms, stirring up memories of past social mishaps and the resulting embarrassment and stress.

Religious Affiliations and Autistic Individuals

The school I attend has a religiously affiliated community, which often means strict adherence to certain norms and values. In this environment, the hyper-conservative views of many autistic individuals can create a tense atmosphere. The fear of offending or disrespecting the community may lead to internal conflicts and discomfort, further complicating social interactions. These dynamics can often lead to tension in the classroom, with me feeling like I'm grinding my teeth and physically cringing at their unchallenged views.

Personal Experiences in Dating

While I have had experiences dating autistic individuals that didn't work out, I have also found fulfillment in a relationship with someone who is autistic. Communication, understanding, and support are crucial elements in a successful relationship, and finding someone who truly understands you can be invaluable. When boundaries and expectations are aligned, the relationship can be remarkably enriching. However, if you find that you cannot handle another autistic person's behaviors and traits, it's important to acknowledge and respect your personal boundaries.

It's also worth noting that the reasons for avoiding another autistic person can be more complex. Often, there may be personal stories and anxieties that aren't explicitly mentioned. Everyone's experiences with autism are unique, and what works for one person might not work for another.

Conclusion

Ultimately, whether or not you choose to date another autistic person is a deeply personal decision. It's a decision influenced by your unique experiences, emotions, and boundaries. If you find that another autistic person makes you anxious or uncomfortable, that's okay. However, if you are finding joy and understanding in a relationship with an autistic partner, then embracing that path can lead to a fulfilling journey.

In closing, while dating another autistic person may not be for everyone, it's important to acknowledge the potential for mutual understanding and support. It's also crucial to respect your own personal boundaries and feelings, ensuring that the choice you make is one that aligns with your well-being.