Parenting with Guns: A Father's Perspective on Gun Ownership and Responsibility

As a father of five adult children, each with their own guns, the question of what to do if a child expresses interest in firearms can be both challenging and revealing. My experience spans from packing away weapons during my son's time in the military to now enjoying our hobby together again.

Understanding the Family Dynamics

Five of my children - four boys and one girl - have guns. They are all adults now and have had guns since before they were 16 years old. Being farmers, guns are a necessity for protecting livestock. However, the conversation is always a delicate balance between family values and maturity levels.

The Challenge of Explaining Guns to a Younger Child

If a younger child, say five, were to suddenly claim they have a gun, the immediate reaction might be panic. However, as a parent, it's essential to understand the context. In my situation, my son has a collection of guns, including some that are quite powerful like RPGs (Rocket-Propelled Grenades).

A rational response would be to first ask which gun they mean, as they likely have several. A calm approach is key in such scenarios, and gently guiding them to understand the seriousness and the rules surrounding such items is crucial.

A More Mature Perspective

Things change as the child grows. If the scenario includes an older child, perhaps a teenager, the conversation takes a different turn. In my case, my son was given his first gun at age 8, another at 10, and a pistol at 20. He underwent hunter safety training and also took a firearms carry class.

Despite these experiences, my son showed no interest in owning his own gun as a teenager. This level-headed approach continues into his current state. He is married with minor children and strongly believes in the need for a safe and secure environment. He has no interest in keeping firearms in a home with children.

Addressing Safety and Training

When my son was in the military, I stored his military weapons for him during his time away. Upon his return, we started enjoying our shared hobby again. Even though he was in the U.S. Air Force (USAF) and has extensive training, California's strict gun laws made it difficult for him to bring the guns home.

Ensuring safety and proper training is crucial when introducing guns to young adults. Teaching them about gun safety, the importance of handling them responsibly, and the respect for these tools should be a priority.

Personal Reflection and Storage

Currently, our son is 40 years old, and gun ownership isn't a priority for him, especially in the context of a family with young children. I kept his weapons safe and stored at a gun range. This approach reflects a thoughtful balance between respect for the hobby and the family's need for a secure home environment.

Moving forward, fostering open communication and understanding about the risks and responsibilities associated with firearms is essential. This approach not only ensures safety but also builds a foundation of trust and responsibility within the family.